I am currently studying for 2 different certifications, in between 10 clients a day and all other usual life stuff. Today I told my self I didn’t have time to revise because I was busy. However, I did have time:
- – To train
- – Go and buy food I didn’t really need
- – Watch the Captain America Trailer for the 15th time
- – Read about Donald Trump annoying the world
- – Cook and eat the food I didn’t really need
This is called procrastinating, or faffing. Us humans are awesome at it.
My point is my ‘busy’ tends to rely a lot around what I ‘want’ to do rather than what I feel I ‘have’ to do. When I think about ‘HAVING’ to revise I think about the process of sitting down, in silence, trying to remember a load of stuff I don’t really understand and then repeating that until my blood pressure lowers and I slowly die of boredom. This is my association of what revision is, a process of effort and boredom. But why don’t I focus on what this process will give me? The reward will be:
- More credentials
- More earning capability
- Get even more effective at helping people
This is what I want. So does this have to be such painful effort? Or can it just be the process I go through top get what I want. Thinking in a way of WANTING to do this has miraculously created more time and gave me more motivation.
Having a clear image of what the benefit of our our goal is makes it a lot easier to physically carry out what is required to achieve it.
When we are looking to change shape or lose weight we get pulled in to a mental tug of war of what we feel we ‘have’ to do. This becomes a fight with our selves and we start to tell ourselves we ‘have to exercise ‘ or ‘we have to eat better’, and we very rarely win that battle. This leads to all the excuses we can think of not to actually do it. It’s like our teacher at school telling us we have to do our home work. What response did that get ?
When I work with a client we go through a process of changing how they mentally associate them selves to their goal. Not everyone has to enjoy exercise to begin with to become a gym regular. They need to enjoy what success is attached to the effort of the gym and thinking about their health and nutrition… And if we are successful at something, we tend to enjoy it; don’t we?
When it comes to weight loss many of us have too much negativity aimed at it which leads us to develop a belief system that everything is a chore, rather than something we genuinely desire to do. We forget that there is an actual reward at the end.
If we focus on what we WANT (weight loss) then it just becomes a process of HOW DO WE GET THERE? If there is an effective strategy in place (training and exercise) to make that process successful how can that be unenjoyable?! You are doing something to get exactly what you want!
The most powerful thing here is understanding it’s our choice to view something as we ‘want’ to do rather than something we ‘have to do’. If you are trying to lose weight or changing your body, no one is forcing you to make that decision. Your desire to have a better body has led to that decision. What often happens is that you stop focusing on what you want and more on the effort it will take to get there – which leads to falling off the wagon. Keep the focus on end destination and you will succeed.
- ‘ I want to exercise because it gives me the body I want, which means I can wear the clothes I feel best in.’
- ‘I want to eat well because it keeps me in shape and I feel confident and happy as a result.’
- ‘If I do my set hours of exercise this week I will hit my 2lb target for the week! I’ll look awesome in my bikini once the holiday gets here’
- It sounds simple but our self talk has a huge effect on how we behave.
Focusing on what we WANT puts us in control of our situation. Focusing what we think we HAVE to do will build barriers and resistance. Try changing how you talk to your self and others about your goal and see what difference it makes. The only thing that is limiting you are your beliefs.
Doing what we want puts us in control of our situation. Doing what we think we have to will build barriers and resistance. Talk to yourself in a more positive way and you will see a difference in your behaviour. If you are struggling to get motivated I recently put an EBOOK together which helps you with this. Find it here, for the price of 2 cups of coffee.
Now I'm off to revise 🙂